Lisa O
California is a state full of diversity, culture, and unique characteristics. With a population of nearly 40 million—it’s a melting pot of people, traditions, and ways of life. Californians take pride in their identity, and some phrases can rub them the wrong way. Here are 30 things you should never say to someone from California.
“Do You, Like, Surf Every Day?”
When people think of California, they often imagine surfers catching waves along endless coastlines. While California has some of the world’s best surf spots, from Malibu to Santa Cruz, not every Californian surfs. In reality, only a tiny percentage of residents hit the waves regularly. Many live far from the coast and might never have surfed a day in their life.
“Isn’t California Just One Big Beach?”
The idea that California is just “one big beach” couldn’t be more wrong. Sure, the coastline is famous, but the state is way more than that. Up north, you’ve got massive redwoods, the Sierra Nevada mountains with snow-capped peaks, and deserts like Death Valley. This mix of landscapes is a big reason why California draws so many tourists—you can hit the beach and then drive a few hours to be in the snow.
“You Must Love In-N-Out Burger.”
Californians do love their In-N-Out Burger, and it’s pretty much a cult favorite for its fresh ingredients. But it’s not the only thing worth eating here! California’s food scene is packed with variety—think Michelin-starred restaurants, a huge range of food trucks, lively farmers’ markets, and some of the best ethnic eats in the country. The food here shows off California’s multicultural vibe, from real-deal Mexican tacos in Los Angeles to fresh seafood in San Francisco.
“Aren’t You All Health Nuts?”
California is definitely big on health trends—green juices, yoga studios, and organic farmers’ markets are everywhere. But it’s also the place to find some seriously tasty comfort food, like deep-fried treats at county fairs or hearty dishes in different cultural neighborhoods. Sure, there are tons of spots for a kale smoothie or an acai bowl, but you’re just as likely to stumble upon an incredible taco stand or a great pizza joint.
“Isn’t It Always Sunny There?”
The “sunny California” idea mostly fits Southern California. Up in Northern California, places like San Francisco can get pretty foggy, windy, and chilly. Then you’ve got the Inland Empire and Central Valley, where it can be blazing hot in the summer and quite cold in the winter. California’s weather is way more varied than people think, so saying it’s always sunny just shows you’re missing out on all the different microclimates the state has.
“Do You See Celebrities All the Time?”
Hollywood’s glamor makes people think Californians are always running into celebrities. Sure, Los Angeles is the heart of the entertainment world, but the truth is most people go about their daily routines without spotting a single star. Even in LA, where a lot of celebs live, you’re more likely to find them in fancy neighborhoods or at private events, not just hanging out at the grocery store.
“How Do You Afford Living In California?”
It’s no secret that California is super expensive—particularly in cities like San Francisco, Los Angeles, and San Diego, where housing costs can be sky-high. But Californians have adapted in various ways. Many opt to live in more affordable suburbs, take advantage of rent control, or find high-paying jobs in sectors like tech or healthcare.
“I Bet You’re All Super Laid Back.”
California might have a reputation for being laid-back, especially compared to the fast-paced East Coast, but that’s not the whole story. Urban places like Los Angeles and San Francisco have super intense work cultures—especially in tech and entertainment, where the hustle never seems to stop. Silicon Valley, in particular, is known for its workaholic vibe.
“Do You Even Get Seasons?”
California’s climate can really change depending on where you are. Southern California often enjoys mild, sunny weather year-round, but up in Northern California, especially in the mountains, you’ll find lots of snow and chilly temperatures. The Central Valley can get blazing hot in summer and cool in winter. Claiming California doesn’t have seasons misses the point that the state’s diverse geography means you can experience everything from snow sports to sunbathing.
“Everyone There Is an Actor or in Tech, Right?”
California is famous for Hollywood and Silicon Valley, but not everyone living here is an actor or a techie. The state’s economy is actually really diverse, with big contributions from agriculture, education, healthcare, finance, tourism, and more. For instance, the Central Valley in California is one of the most productive farming regions globally, growing a huge amount of the fruits, nuts, and vegetables you see across the U.S.
“You All Must Be Liberal.”
California might seem like a liberal stronghold, especially with coastal cities like San Francisco and Los Angeles leaning that way. But the state’s political scene is actually pretty mixed. Many inland areas—like parts of the Central Valley and Orange County have strongly conservative views. The wide range of opinions across the state means not everyone fits into a single political category.
“Why Do You Guys Say ‘The’ Before Freeways?”
This phrase highlights a classic North-South divide in California. People in Southern California often say “the” before freeway numbers, a habit from older freeway names like “the Hollywood Freeway.” On the other hand, people in Northern California usually skip the “the” and just say “101” or “280.” It’s a regional quirk that can lead to some fun debates, but making fun of it is like teasing someone for their accent—it’s better to appreciate these little differences.
“Is It True You Have Earthquakes All the Time?”
California is famous for its seismic activity because it’s located along the Pacific Ring of Fire. But most earthquakes are minor and often go unnoticed. The last big quake, the 1994 Northridge earthquake, was a major event, but Californians don’t live in constant fear. The state has strict building codes and solid emergency plans to handle earthquakes. Asking if they have earthquakes “all the time” can sound like fear-mongering.
“You All Smoke Weed, Right?”
Since California legalized recreational cannabis in 2016, it’s often assumed that everyone here smokes weed. While cannabis is popular in some circles, it’s not a given for everyone. Many Californians don’t use it for personal, cultural, or health reasons. Just like with alcohol, some people use cannabis socially, some for medical reasons, and many don’t use it at all. Assuming everyone is into it ignores the diverse lifestyles across the state.
“Why Would You Live There with All the Wildfires?”
Wildfires are a real issue in California, but they don’t impact the whole state. Lots of Californians live in places where wildfires are pretty rare, and those who live in higher-risk areas often do so because they love the natural beauty, community vibe, or job opportunities. Wildfires are just part of the state’s climate, but residents and the government are getting better at handling them with advanced firefighting techniques, smart urban planning, and proactive evacuation plans.
“Why Don’t You Have an Accent?”
California doesn’t have a singular, stereotypical “accent” like some other parts of the U.S. Instead, speech patterns here are influenced by the state’s multicultural background. You’ll hear a mix of dialects and languages depending on the region. Assuming Californians should all sound like stereotypical surfers or Valley girls ignores the diversity that shapes the way people speak.
“Do You Even Own a Winter Coat?”
Not only do many Californians own winter coats, but they also use them frequently. Northern California, especially areas like Lake Tahoe or Yosemite, experiences snow and cold weather. Even Southern California has chilly evenings during winter months, especially in the desert or higher altitudes. Californians often take pride in their ability to experience multiple climates within a single state, and they dress accordingly.
“Traffic Can’t Be That Bad.”
Californians know their traffic is legendary—for all the wrong reasons. Cities like Los Angeles and San Francisco are notorious for gridlock, and commutes can stretch hours. Even smaller cities face congestion due to urban sprawl and inadequate public transportation in some areas. Downplaying the challenges of California traffic can come across as dismissive of a daily struggle for many residents.
“Aren’t You Worried About the ‘Big One’?”
Earthquakes are a reality in California, but constantly bringing up “the Big One” (a potentially catastrophic earthquake) is alarmist and unhelpful. Californians are well aware of seismic risks and take precautions, but they don’t live in constant fear. They’re more focused on enjoying life and being prepared than obsessing over when the next major quake might hit.
“California Is So Fake.”
While Hollywood might give the impression of superficiality, most Californians are far from “fake.” The state is home to hardworking, innovative, and down-to-earth people across industries like agriculture, technology, education, and healthcare. Labeling the entire state as “fake” overlooks its cultural depth and the genuine communities that make up the majority of its population.
“Does Everyone Drive an Electric Car?”
While California is a leader in electric vehicle adoption, not everyone drives a Tesla or a hybrid. Many residents drive older, gas-powered cars or rely on public transportation, especially in lower-income areas. Suggesting that everyone who drives electric cars ignores the economic and geographical differences that impact vehicle ownership across the state.
“Isn’t the Cost of Living Ridiculous?”
Yes, living in California can be expensive, but many residents have adapted and found ways to thrive. Affordable living options exist in smaller towns and inland regions, and for many, the state’s opportunities and lifestyle outweigh the higher costs. Constantly bringing up the cost of living can feel like rubbing salt in the wound, especially for those working hard to make it in the Golden State.
“Why Are Californians So Obsessed with Avocados?”
Avocados are a big deal in California, but it’s not an obsession—it’s about availability and quality. The state is one of the largest avocado producers in the U.S., meaning Californians get them fresh and in abundance. Dismissing their love for avocados overlooks the connection to local agriculture and the versatility of this delicious fruit.
“Do You Only Eat Vegan or Gluten-Free?”
California is often seen as a health-conscious state, but not everyone is vegan, gluten-free, or on the latest diet trend. While these options are widely available, Californians also like hearty meals, barbecues, and diverse cuisines. Assuming they only follow restrictive diets perpetuates an inaccurate stereotype.
“Is Everyone There Really That Chill?”
The stereotype of laid-back Californians lounging on the beach all day doesn’t hold up in reality. Many residents work in high-pressure industries like tech, entertainment, and finance, where competition is intense and long hours are the norm. While Californians may value balance and outdoor activities, they’re just as hardworking and driven as anyone else.
“Why Don’t You Just Leave During Wildfire Season?”
Wildfires are a serious issue in California, but suggesting residents simply “leave” ignores the complexities of uprooting their lives. Many people have strong ties to their communities, homes, and jobs. Additionally, the majority of the state isn’t directly affected by wildfires, and those who are often have strong reasons to stay, including access to resources and rebuilding efforts.
“California’s Water Problem Isn’t That Serious.”
Water scarcity is a significant issue in California, affecting agriculture, urban planning, and daily life. Dismissing this concern shows a lack of awareness of the challenges the state faces in managing its natural resources. Many Californians actively conserve water and support policies to address the problem, so minimizing the issue can come across as insensitive.
“Do People Really Wear Flip-Flops Everywhere?”
Flip-flops are popular in California, thanks to the warm weather and beach culture, but they’re not a universal uniform. In cities like San Francisco or Sacramento, you’re more likely to see people in sneakers, boots, or business attire. Assuming everyone lives in flip-flops reinforces the one-dimensional “beach bum” stereotype.
“How Can You Stand the Smog?”
While air quality has been an issue in some parts of California, particularly Los Angeles, the state has made significant strides in reducing smog through environmental regulations and cleaner energy. Highlighting the problem without acknowledging the progress comes off as unfairly critical and dismissive of efforts to improve.
“Why Is Everyone in California So Trendy?”
California does set trends, from fashion to technology, but not everyone is caught up in the latest craze. Many residents lead simple lives focused on family, work, and community. Assuming everyone is chasing trends overlooks the diverse lifestyles and values that define the state’s population.