Lisa O
Cat parents have heard all kinds of comments about their furry friends. From the so-called “jokes” about cats to the outright rude remarks about not liking them, being a cat owner often invites some unwanted opinions. If you have friends who don’t share your love for cats, chances are you’ve heard some of these misguided comments. And if you’re one of those friends, here are 15 things you should never say to a cat parent!
“Cats Are So Weird and Unfriendly!”
This is one of the biggest myths about cats. People think cats must be cold and unloving because cats don’t bounce around like dogs. But the truth is, felines have their own way of showing affection. They might give you a slow blink, follow you from room to room, or snuggle up on your lap—all of which are big signs of love in cat speak.
“You Should Get a Dog Instead!”
That’s like telling someone who loves yoga to start doing CrossFit. Cat lovers are into cats for a reason—they enjoy their independent but still affectionate vibe. Felines often mirror their owner’s behaviors and moods, creating a special connection. Dog people might not understand it, but a little headbutt or a soft purr for cat parents is just as heartwarming as a dog’s wagging tail.
“Your House Must Smell Terrible.”
Sure, having a cat means there’s a litter box involved, but assuming someone’s house stinks because of it isn’t nice. Most cat parents work hard to keep their homes smelling clean and fresh. Felines are very clean animals—they spend nearly half their day grooming themselves.
“It’s Cruel Not to Let Your Cat Have Kittens.”
Parenthood isn’t for everyone, and that goes for cats, too. Cats can get pregnant as early as 4-5 months old. Anyone who thinks it’s wrong for cat parents to prevent their cats from getting pregnant clearly hasn’t seen an animal shelter during ‘kitten season,’ when millions of helpless kittens come in while many others face tough circumstances.
“Cats Are Just Meant to Be Outdoors.”
Sure, some outdoor cats enjoy their little adventures, but saying all cats should be outside is pretty risky. Indoor cats are usually safer and live longer because they dodge dangers like cars, predators, and diseases. Experts recommend keeping cats indoors to protect them from these kinds of hazards. It’s not about restricting a cat’s freedom—it’s about keeping them safe. And honestly, a sunny spot by the window is all the adventure most cats need.
“Cats Don’t Really Love You; They Just Tolerate You for Food.”
Cats love their humans very much. A study from Oregon State University found that cats show secure attachment behaviors to their owners, just like dogs and even babies do. When a cat rubs against your legs, purrs while you pet them, or trails behind you from room to room, that’s their way of showing love—not just trying to score more food.
“Cats Are Evil.”
Just because cats have that intense, piercing stare doesn’t mean they’re planning your doom. Cats are super curious and smart—they’re just a bit more reserved than other pets. When a cat gives you “the look,” they’re probably just trying to figure out what you’re doing or if there’s something fun for them to join in on. What some people think looks “evil” is usually just a cat’s quirky way of checking things out.
“Aren’t You Worried About Cat Hair Everywhere?”
Cat parents have come to accept, and even love, the fur. For them, it’s a sign of their cat’s affection. They invest in lint rollers, vacuums, and regular grooming because that’s just part of the cat-owning gig. Plus, some studies suggest that being around pet dander can actually help boost your immune system. Sure, your black pants might turn gray after sitting on their couch, but that’s just part of the charm.
“Why Do You Talk to Your Cat Like It’s a Baby?”
Because it works! Research from the University of Paris has found that cats respond more positively to high-pitched, sing-songy voices—the same kind we use when talking to babies. This “pet-directed speech” can help strengthen the bond between a cat and their human. So, if you hear a cat parent going full “Who’s a good kitty?” mode, know there’s science behind the silliness.
“Your Cat Is So Fat!”
First of all, rude! Body shaming is not okay, even for cats. Cat parents are often very aware of their kitty’s weight and may already be working on it. Feline obesity is a real health concern that can lead to diabetes, arthritis, and other issues. If you want to be supportive, ask how the cat’s diet is going or compliment the efforts made.
“Why Would You Spend So Much Money on a Cat?”
Whether it’s top-notch food, fun toys, vet visits, or even pet insurance, cat parents spend money on their cats because they truly care. In 2020, U.S. pet parents shelled out over $103 billion on their pets, according to the American Pet Products Association. Plus, you can’t put a price on those cute little toe beans.
(Based on a report by Phys.org)
“Cats Are Too Independent; They’re Not Affectionate.”
We totally agree that cats are more independent than some pets, but that doesn’t mean they don’t love their humans. Felines have special ways of showing affection, like purring, kneading, or giving you a classic headbutt. They might not be all up in your face, but when they curl up next to you or nuzzle your hand—it’s their way of saying they care.
“You Have Too Many Cats.”
How many cats is too many? That’s a question only the cat parent can answer! For some, one cat is enough; for others, two is company, and three is even better. While it’s essential to ensure that each cat gets enough space, food, and attention, the love for cats often knows no bounds. Who’s to say what’s too many if they’re well cared for? It’s like asking someone why they have more than one plant. The more, the merrier!
“Why Do You Let Your Cat On The Counter?”
It’s not that cat parents “let” their cats do anything—cats do what they want! Climbing and exploring high places is a natural feline instinct. They feel safe up high where they can observe their environment. Instead of criticizing, a better question might be, “Have you considered a cat tree or perch?” This shows you understand that kittens have natural behaviors and offers a solution rather than a critique.
“Why Don’t You Declaw Your Cat?”
Declawing isn’t a good option for everyone, and in some places, it’s even becoming illegal. As one vet against declawing explains, cats have claws for a reason—they use them to express themselves. For many cat parents, the idea of removing a cat’s claws just to protect a sofa is a no-go, so don’t even bring it up.