Bruno Pugh
Ever get that feeling someone might be keeping their distance from you? Relationships can be difficult and often may bring doubts, especially when you’re unsure if it’s all in your head. To help you decipher the signs, here are 15 hints that someone might be giving you the cold shoulder.
They Limit Communication
If someone is trying to be as far away as possible from you, they will rarely initiate conversations with you. When you initiate, and they do respond, their messages are often brief or one-liners. Maybe you ask them, “How did your day go?” Their response could just be “fine.” It’s obvious they don’t want a prolonged dialogue with you.
They No Longer Like or Comment On Your Posts
To avoid reminding you of their presence, they might refrain from liking or commenting on your posts and generally reduce their engagement with you on social media. These individuals may refrain from liking or commenting on your posts and generally reduce their engagement with you on social media.
They Always Talk About How Busy They Are
Maybe the person is actually busy, but why must they constantly mention it? It’s likely a way to avoid invitations from you. However, if this behavior is consistent with everyone, not just you, it’s abnormal for them to dominate conversations with their busy schedule.
They Cancel Plans All The Time
Understandably, people can’t be available for you 24/7. However, someone interested in being around you shouldn’t always cancel plans. To you, it may feel like just another plan gone wrong, but the person who keeps canceling plans all the time likely doesn’t want to be around you. All those last-minute happenings, sudden business, and other commitments may not exist.
They Give You Slow Responses
The act of responding slowly or almost not at all is a message in itself—that someone needs a wall between you and them. Someone eager to communicate with you won’t make it a habit of taking a long time to reply to your messages or not responding at all. They may have their bad days, but they’ll sometimes make some effort to respond quickly.
They Are Always “Busy” In Your Presence
No matter how “busy” someone is, they must surely have some breaks and create time for what matters. If, when you’re around a person, they’re always seemingly doing something urgent, they may be intentionally avoiding you. You might even find out they were doing nothing before you arrived but quickly bury their head in an activity when they realize you’re around.
They Avoid Eye Contact
Eye contact is one way to build and maintain rapport and show you’re comfortable and want to connect with another person. When someone does not meet your eye often and intentionally drops their gaze, beware. It could signify that someone is uncomfortable with you and attempting to create emotional or psychological distance.
Their Body Language is Closed-off
Some body language shows signs that someone doesn’t want to be around you. Crossed arms or turning away are just a few examples. You may want to overlook them and excuse them as the person’s way of behaving, but the truth is that body language communicates feelings and intentions, often revealing more than words.
They Frequently Avoid Meeting You
Consistently avoiding hangouts or places they would normally meet you such as the gym, without valid reasons, can suggest that the person may not prioritize spending time with you as they once did. This behavior is a recipe for disappointment and uncertainty about your connection status.
They Lack Interest in Conversations
It’s easy to tell when a person is uninterested or disengaged in conversations. They may frequently check their phone, keep looking around the room, or make other gestures to indicate their disinterest. If you see this, it might be time to move on.
They Stop Sharing Personal Information
When someone stops sharing personal details or updates about their life, they may wish to keep your relationship at a superficial level. Personal sharing is a key component of closeness, and while its absence could point to a current distraction in their life, it can equally suggest they no longer want that deep relationship with you.
They Physically Distance Themselves
A person who positions themselves farther away from you might be trying to create physical space to match their emotional distance. You may notice they don’t sit as close to you when you sit together. Or they tend to maintain a gap when you’re walking together.
They Engage More with Others
When someone gives you minimal attention in a group setting but engages well with others, it can be a sign that they are deliberately trying to stay far. On the one hand, they may genuinely enjoy the company of others more than yours. Conversely, it could just be their way of avoiding opportunities to interact with you.
They Show Less Enthusiasm For Your Achievements
You might notice their responses becoming more subdued or even indifferent when you share good news or accomplishments. This change could signal a shift in their interest or priorities, where they may no longer feel as invested in celebrating your successes. You need to pay attention to such cues.
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