Lisa O
Pet owners are a passionate bunch—and for good reason. Their furry (or scaly, or feathery) friends are more than just animals; they’re family. But some comments can really rub them the wrong way. Whether it’s ignorance or just poor timing, here are 15 things you should never say to someone who adores their pet.
“It’s just a dog/cat.”
To you, it might be “just a pet,” but to them, it’s a companion, emotional support system, and family member rolled into one. This comment dismisses the depth of the bond people share with their animals. It’s like telling someone their feelings don’t matter—never a good look in any conversation.
“Why don’t you have kids instead?”
Pets and kids are not interchangeable life choices. Some people don’t want children, can’t have them, or simply love animals. This question not only sounds intrusive, but it also suggests pets are a second-rate substitute for parenting. Let people love who—or what—they want without turning it into a life philosophy debate.
“You spent how much on a vet bill?”
Medical care for pets can be expensive, but shaming someone for investing in their animal’s health is a quick way to sound heartless. Pet owners often go above and beyond to ensure their companions live healthy, happy lives. Unless you’re splitting the bill, their spending habits are none of your business.
“Your house must smell.”
Backhanded comments like this are thinly veiled insults. Most pet owners are keenly aware of cleanliness and go out of their way to keep their homes fresh. If you’re invited over, maybe try not accusing them of living in a barn. It’s rude and, frankly, probably not even true.
“I’d never let an animal on my furniture.”
That’s your choice—but sharing this unsolicited opinion can come across as judgmental. Many pet owners love cuddling with their pets on the couch or bed. It’s their home, their furniture, and their snuggle buddy. If you wouldn’t do it, great! Just don’t act like they’re doing something wrong.
“Don’t you think you’re too attached?”
There’s no such thing as too much love when it comes to pets. For some people, pets help with anxiety, grief, or loneliness. Telling someone they’re too attached sounds dismissive and cold. Emotional connections with pets are legitimate and powerful—and no one needs to justify them.
“You should really train them better.”
Unless their pet is actually being disruptive or dangerous, this line often feels like a passive-aggressive jab. Training takes time, patience, and consistency. Not all pets are perfect, and not all people want the same behaviors in their animals. Offer help only if it’s asked for—otherwise, it’s just criticism.
“Are you still upset about your pet?”
Grief doesn’t have an expiration date. Losing a pet can be just as devastating as losing a human family member. Belittling someone’s sorrow with a “still?” shows a lack of empathy. Let people process loss in their own time—and maybe just offer a kind word instead of a judgmental one.
“It’s not natural to treat an animal like that.”
Whether it’s celebrating a pet’s birthday or dressing them up for Halloween, people express love in different ways. What feels “unnatural” to one person may be pure joy for another. As long as the animal isn’t harmed or uncomfortable, why ruin the fun with unnecessary commentary?
“I’d never waste money on pet insurance.”
Pet insurance can be a financial lifesaver in emergencies, and for some, it’s the smartest investment they can make. Calling it a “waste” devalues the care and planning many owners put into their animals’ well-being. People insure what they love—it’s that simple.
“Do you really need another pet?”
Some people thrive in multi-pet households and have the resources to care for several animals. This comment suggests irresponsibility when, in fact, the person may be incredibly committed and capable. Unless there’s clear neglect, it’s not your place to judge their capacity to love and care.
“You let your pet kiss you?”
Yes. Many pet owners happily accept affectionate licks from their furry friends. If that grosses you out, that’s fine—but saying it with disgust can come off as insulting. Pet kisses are often viewed as a sweet connection, not a hygiene crime scene. Let people enjoy their slobbery smooches in peace.
“You’re turning into a crazy cat/dog person.”
This is often meant as a joke, but it lands as an insult. Pet owners are passionate, not “crazy.” Dismissing their love as obsession just reinforces tired stereotypes. If someone gets joy from their animal, why mock it? There are far worse hobbies than cuddling your dog and posting cat photos.
“Pets are a waste of time and money.”
To many, pets bring purpose, companionship, and unconditional love—none of which are a waste. Saying this not only sounds heartless but also completely misses the point of what pets offer. If you don’t get it, that’s okay. But you don’t need to diminish the experience for those who do.
“What will you do when they die?”
Talk about a buzzkill. Yes, pets have shorter lifespans—but most owners already dread that day. This question is not insightful or helpful; it’s just cruel. Let people enjoy the time they have without foreshadowing tragedy. There’s a time for that conversation, and it’s definitely not while they’re playing fetch.